AyinBase with R' Paltiel Wednesday 20 Adar II 5772
Page 66 – lower third of the page (line starts, 'ach ha-inyan...') For text, see link top right of the blog. Or for text right click here.
Once there is the revelation as a result of nishikin/kisses, to the point that even in the bodily union there is revelation of the essence itself, then malchus takes on a new position completely. It becomes representative of the essence more than the other sphirot. If that's the case, 'that the recipient becomes the crown of her husband/master' why is he still called husband? The answer is that the malchus has the elements of helem and gilui (hidden and revealed). And similarly the root of malchus is in a state of helem/concealment.
The human being represents something real and hidden. Life is not measured by its functional value.